快樂計劃學着進步雙語
你有沒有發現任何跟蹤自己進步的好方法呢?--它能幫助你實現目標、保持決議嗎?接下來，小編給大家準備了快樂計劃學着進步雙語,歡迎大家參考與借鑑。
I'm working on my Happiness Project, and you could have one, too! Everyone's project will look different, but it’s the rare person who can't benefit. Join in -- no need to catch up, just jump in right now. Each Friday’s post will help you think about your own happiness project.
我正在進行自己的快樂計劃，你也應該有一個!雖然人人不盡相同，可是極少人不從中受益。參與進來--不需要從後邊趕上，只要立刻加入。每週五的帖子將幫助你思考自己的快樂計劃。
One strategy that I find hugely helpful in many aspects of my life is to track my progress. Having some concrete proof of advancement1 gives me the gold stars I crave2, and the accountability of charting my progress – or lack thereof – keeps me diligent3.
在生活中許多方面幫助了我的一個策略是跟蹤自己的進步。有確鑿證據表明進步給我帶來了渴求的“小星星”，對有了進步或缺少進步進行記錄的問責制讓我勤奮。
One key way I track my progress is through my Resolutions Chart. The boxes below each resolution show me where I'm making progress and where I need to work harder.
跟蹤進步的一個關鍵是通過我的決議圖。 每個決議下的格子說明我在哪些地方取得了進步，哪些地方需要再加把勁。
I’ve found other ways to keep track of progress, too. As I’ve worked on the draft of my Happiness Project book (self-promotion alert: it comes out in January), I kept a pile of all the print-outs I’ve made. I work almost exclusively on the computer, but every once in a while I have to read it in a hard copy -- somehow, words look so different printed on a page. Keeping a stack of my evolving manuscript was a way to remind myself visually of how far I’ve come since I started.
我還發現了另一個跟蹤進步的方法。當我給“快樂計劃”一書起草時(警告：自我推銷--該書將於明年一月出版)，我有一大堆自己製作的打印本。幾乎全部都是在電腦上進行，但是隔一段時間，我必須要讀一讀紙質本--不知怎麼地，字印刷在一頁紙上就是不一樣。有一疊逐漸發展下的手稿是一個通過視覺方式提醒自己自己從一開始已經進行到了什麼程度的方法。
As the photo here shows, the pile was also fairly unattractive, so after taking this picture I rewarded myself for completing the copy-edited version by tossing the entire stack. Now, in a reversal, the absence of the pile is a different sign of progress.
正如上邊圖片現實，這一堆看上去十分沒魅力，所以，在拍完後，爲了慶祝完成了書稿版，將這一堆都丟了。現在，反過來，沒有這一堆成了展現出進步的另一個不同的標記。
Keeping track of progress can help deter4 you from doing things you don’t want to do – for example, snacking mindlessly. In Brian Wansink’s fascinating book Mindless Eating, he describes an experiment where students were served free chicken wings while they watched the Super Bowl. When the tables were bussed so that people had a clean table in front of them and no evidence to remind them of how much they’d eaten, they ate 28% more chicken wings than the people did when the leftover5 bones were left piled in front of them. A friend applied6 this strategy herself. She is a big candy fan, and for a week, after she ate candy, she saved the wrapper in her purse. At the end of the week, she was horrified7 by the number of wrappers she’d accumulated, and she was inspired to cut back on her candy consumption.
跟蹤進步可以幫助你阻止做那些不想做的事情--例如，盲目吃零食。 在Brian Wansink精彩一書“Mindless Eating”中，他講述了一個試驗。實驗中，學生被提供免費雞翅，一邊看Super Bowl。當餐座被撤掉，這樣人們面前是乾淨的桌子，沒有證據來提醒人們吃了多少，那麼他們吃的雞翅比那些雞骨頭堆被留在面前的人們吃的多28%。一位朋友對自己採用了這個方法。她很喜歡吃糖，有一週，在吃完後，她把糖紙存在了錢包中。一個禮拜後，她驚恐地發現積累了多少張糖紙，這讓她少吃糖。
Another way to keep track of progress is to keep a one-sentence journal. The thought of keeping a real journal – the kind written in beautiful script in a parchment journal – is daunting8, but keeping a journal of one daily sentence is manageable. My one-sentence journal is just general family news, but other people use them to track progress in a specific area: the launch of a new business, brainstorming9 ideas for a project, tracking training for a marathon.
另一個跟蹤進步的方法是記錄一句話日記。寫真正的日記--那種在羊皮紙日記本中漂亮語言寫下的那種日記--令人畏怯，但是寫“每天一句話”的日記卻是可以做到。我的一句話日記不過是普通家庭內容，但是有人用它跟蹤明確方面的進步: 創業、爲一個計劃想電子，爲訓練跑馬拉松。
Have you found any good ways to track your progress? –and does it help you achieve your goals and keep your resolutions?
你有沒有發現任何跟蹤自己進步的好方法呢?--它能幫助你實現目標、保持決議嗎?
擴展：受害人思維
How would you answer this question: I am out of my abuse and have moved on with my life. There is something that I have been wondering about. How and when does the abuse stop playing a significant part of my life? I have seen others who have moved on and I would like to know how they did it.
對下面的問題你會作何回答：我擺脫了虐待，翻開新的生活。有些事我一直在考慮，從何時開始，如何虐待會停止在我的生活中扮演重要的角色?我見過那些繼續生活的人，我想知道他們是如何做到的。
The woman who asked this, asked a valid1 question. There are many men, women and children who no longer are victims, but feel like they cannot leave it behind. It stays as much a part of themselves as it did while they were being abused. The only difference may be there is no physical or emotional abuse happening in their worlds.
問這個問題的女士所問的問題是有效的。有許多不再是受害者的男人、女人和孩子，可是這些人感到無法將其拋在身後。它就如同過去被虐待時一樣還是自己的一部分。唯一的區別是如今在他們的世界沒有情感或身體虐待發生。
What is victim mentality2?
什麼是受害人思維?
A victim mentality is one where you blame everyone else for what happens in your world. (Another definition not as commonly used is one that says a person thinks the future only holds bad things for them.) If you do not get the promotion3 it is because Mr. Johnson was out to get you. Not because he found you playing on the Internet every day. Your best friend called and said she could not have dinner with you. She is always doing that to you; not showing. You'll show her. You won't invite her when you go out again! Instead of remembering she has just started school and you did call her at the last minute. Victim mentality.
受害人思維是你對自己生活中的一切都指責於別人。(另一個不常用的定義是一個人認爲未來只會給他們帶來不好的東西)如果你沒有獲得晉升，那是因爲Johnson和你做多。不是因爲他發現你成天上網。你最好的朋友打電話說不能和你進餐。她總是那麼對你，不來。你將看她顏色看看。當你再出去時就不會請她了。而沒有考慮她纔剛開學，而你卻是在最後一分鐘打給她電話。受害人思維。
Recently I spoke4 with someone who no longer lives with a victim mentality. She has gone on with her life and is free from some of the extra baggage that come with being a victim. We discussed forgiving our abusers and how in that process you also need to forgive yourself. With that came loosing the victim mentality.
最近，我和某位不再帶着“受害人”思維的人談話。她繼續新的生活，不再有作爲受害人要背的額外包袱。我們討論瞭如何原諒虐待人，在此過程中你也要如何原諒自己。隨之而來的就是釋放了受害人思維。
When she was living under the victim mentality she found herself angrier. She found herself swirling5 in a sea of resentment6 towards her abuser. She stayed locked in that cycle and never seemed to move forward. If she got sick, she became angry at him. If the kids messed up, she became angry at him. He was no longer in the picture, but it was all his fault. It was not hers; he made things this way... Life is easier when you can play the blame game. The blame game makes it easy for your life not to move forward or for you to grow.
當她生活在這種思維下，她發現自己更生氣。她發現自己將滿腔的憤恨都拋給了她的虐待者。她困在這種循環，似乎永遠都不能前進。如果她生病了，那麼她會對他生氣。如果孩子搗蛋，她會對他生氣。那個人不在牽涉，但是全都是他的錯;不是她的錯;他讓事情這樣...當你開始做“指責”遊戲，生活要容易些。"指責"遊戲讓你的生活“容易”不前進，讓你不成長。
The day came when she tired of the mentality. She wasn't a victim anymore and the time had come for her to move beyond the victim mentality. I asked her how she stopped the self destructive cycle. The first thing she did is something many abuse victims may have a hard time doing. She forgave her abuser. She did not say that she forgave him for breaking her ribs7, she acknowledged that he had a problem and that he needed to get help. Wishing him ill will kept him in her mind more then he should have been. By acknowledging that he had hurt her, that he did have a problem, she was able to feel some relief. There was more though. As important as forgiving him was, she needed to forgive herself too. She needed to forgive herself for exposing the kids to the abuse. She needed to forgive herself for not reporting him to the police all the times he had hurt her. She needed to forgive herself for being afraid. She needed to forgive herself for not having walked away all the times she could have. She needed to forgive herself..
有一天，她厭惡了這種思維。她不再是受害人，是時候讓她走出這種思維。我問她如何停止這種自我毀滅的循環。她做的第一件事就是許多受害人感到難以去做的。她原諒了她的虐待者。她並沒有說因爲打斷了她的肋骨而原諒，她承認他有問題，需要幫助。詛咒他只會讓她依然記着他。通過承認他傷害了她，他確實有問題，她就能獲得一些輕鬆。不過不僅如此。和原諒一樣重要的，她需要原諒自己。她需要原諒自己讓孩子暴露在虐待環境下。她需要原諒自己在他傷害她這一切的時候沒有報警。她需要原諒自己的害怕感覺。她需要原諒自己一直以來本可以卻沒有離開。她需要原來那個她自己...
She did all those things so she could mentally move forward. Forgiving herself allowed her to get past some of the more intense things she had experienced. The physical bruises8 had all gone away. The emotional had stayed. It had clung to her and kept the victim mentality alive.
她做了這一切事情，這才能夠精神上前進。原諒自己讓她超越了過去感受到的更強烈東西。身體瘀傷過去都好了，可情緒的去依舊還在。它牢牢地握住她，維繫着受害人思維。
