如何提升自己的自信（雙語）
摘要：自信是一種無形的東西，一個人的自信特質能看出一個人與別人大不一樣，其差異會達到可怕的程度而且感覺到這個人身上的那種力量感。在你感到自己非常自信的時候，自己有一種無人能夠阻擋的感覺，貌似自己走在面前這條暢通無阻的光明大道上。那麼，如何提升自信呢?
Confidence. It's that intangible thing which makes the difference between feeling scared and feeling powerful. When you feel confident, you are unstoppable and it seems like your path is laid out clearly in front of you. When you lack confidence, however, you can feel afraid, and sometimes all you can see ahead is the possibility of failure.
自信。自信是一種無形的東西，一個人的自信特質能看出一個人與別人大不一樣，其差異會達到可怕的程度而且感覺到這個人身上的那種力量感。在你感到自己非常自信的時候，自己有一種無人能夠阻擋的感覺，貌似自己走在面前這條暢通無阻的光明大道上。但在你感到自己非常缺乏自信的時候，你自己會感覺好怕，而且自己擡頭向前看時，有時候感覺只能看到失敗。
At some stage in our lives almost all of us will need to conquer our lack of confidence. (I've certainly been there!) The question is, how do you do it?
在我們生活中的某些階段幾乎每個人都遇到過需要自己克服缺乏自信的這一困難。(我本可以做到!)問題在於你是如何做到的?
Oftentimes coaching and transformation can bring about an increased level of confidence. (One of the many great by-products of the process.) While this does not happen overnight and there is no magic pill, the following are some strategies I have found that work wonders when working with clients.
通常做教練當老師能增加自信。(自信就是在鍛鍊的過程中得以增強的。)但這不是一夜之間的蛻變，而且沒有奇效藥片，下列是在與客戶合作時發現的一些奇蹟性的戰略方法。
out of your comfort zone.
走出你的舒適區。
When you do the things that you think you can't, your comfort zone will continue to expand. Even doing something seemingly small every day will lead you to something bigger. You will grow and will begin to feel unstoppable. Just take that first step.
在你認爲自己無法做到這些事情的時候，你的舒適區會繼續擴展。即使每天做一些小事情貌似也會逐漸做一些大事情。你會成長並會開始感覺自己勢不可擋。關鍵在於要邁出這第一步。
owledge your fears.
承認你的恐懼心理。
Fear is normal. The key is to not let it debilitate you. Recognizing your fears will not make them come true. It's best to acknowledge and address the fears rather than not face them. Write out what you are afraid of and what you will do to mitigate those fears.
害怕是正常現象。關鍵在於不要讓恐懼影響到你。要意識到害怕並不解決問題。最好要正視自己的恐懼不要回避恐懼。把你的害怕擔心之處寫出來，並且把減輕恐懼心理的辦法也要寫出來。
yourself -- unapologetically.
做自己—無需有歉意。
Remember, you can't control others or what they think. Wayne Dyer believes that if you ask 30 people their opinions of you, you are likely to find you have 30 different reputations. Strive to observe and witness others' opinions, rather than being attached to them. Find a personal style that feels great to you. Dress well, in the clothing you feel is very you. Live your life the way you feel is right.
記住，你無法控制別人或控制別人的想法。要是你問30人的觀點，很可能會有30種不同的看法。努力觀察並見證別人的觀點，而不是附和別人。發現一個人的性格很好很對你的心情。穿衣要講究，穿衣講究你會感覺自己很自信。你會感覺你在過着你想要的生活。
go of the idea of perfectionism.
不要追求完美主義。
Striving to be perfect can cause self-doubt (as well as "stuckness"). Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Not allowing yourself to make mistakes will halt your growth. Overthinking can do the same.
極力要求自己做到完美就會懷疑自己(也會給自己設“障礙”)。要允許自己犯錯誤，不允許自己犯錯誤就無法成長。過於多慮一樣無法成長。
reminders of your awesomeness.
提醒自己要敬重自己。
Jack Canfield says, "Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments." Make a list of the qualities that are fabulously YOU. Acknowledge your own achievements. Revisit this list when you feel down.
傑克•加菲爾德說，“自我欣賞和自我認知是推動你向前走向更高目標和取得更大成就所具備的洞察力和意識力。”列出一個讓你自己都難以置信自身所具備的的性格特質清單。承認自己所取得的成就。在你感到失望的時候再重新審視這個列表。
what makes you feel confident -- physically.
去做讓你自己有自信的事情—從身心上都會有自信的感覺。
I recently worked with a woman who said that she literally gets a physical feeling when she feels confident. (I agree; confidence is not just in the mind.) I asked her to pay attention to what she is doing when she feels that feeling, and do more of that. One thing she came up with was listening to a specific song in the car. When she listens to it she feels awesome. Simple.
最近，我在工作上與一位女性打交道，她說，在她感覺自己很自信的時候自己的身體都能感受到這股自信的力量。(我同意，不只是在思想上有自信。)我讓她去注意自己對自己正在做的事情的感受，接着再多做一些這類事情。她想起了她在開車時聽到的一首歌。在聽這首歌的時候感覺很棒。很容易就能做到的。
mindful of your body language.
留心自己的身體語言。
This takes a level of self-awareness and presence. As I took dance classes throughout my childhood, I frequently heard the teacher announce, "Heads up and shoulders back! Stand up straight and tall!" Give it a shot. Walk and move with purpose. It makes a world of difference rather than walking slouched with our heads down, which makes us feel low and sends out a negative impression to the people around you. Watch for folded arms and slouched posture, and for fidgeting with your hands. Smile and make eye contact.
這需要一定程度的自我意識和自我存在。在我兒時上舞蹈課時，我經常聽到老師：“注意頭和肩膀!要站直了!“試一試按照這個姿勢有意識地走動幾步。與耷拉着腦袋走路的感覺真的大不一樣，我們這樣走路也給人一種消沉的感覺，而且你給周圍的人留下消極的印象。注意不要合抱雙臂、姿勢懶散、不知道雙手該放在哪裏好，要面帶微笑並做眼神交流。
tice assertiveness.
鍛鍊自己自信起來
When you address your own needs, miracles happen. So ask for what you want. I dare you.
知道自己的需求，就會出現奇蹟。所以，要問自己要什麼。我向你保證這樣做會很見效。
k confidently.
要有自信的信心
Placing your focus on the worst possible outcome can cause you unnecessary anxiety, and stop you taking action. Use your energy to acknowledge that there are an endless number of outcomes. What you focus on expands. See the results you want and they are likely to happen.
把你的注意力放在最糟糕的結果上，你就會有焦慮，還會阻阻礙你行動起來。要用你的能量來承認最終會出現各種結果。你的關注點要放開些，很可能就會有看到你想要的結果。
10. Forgive yourself when you're beating yourself up, and remember that you can begin anew any day. Your past does not predict your future.
在你擊敗自己時要原諒自己，記住，你可以在任何一天重新開始。你的過去並不預測你的未來。
Implementing some of these items can help you overcome the limitations that a lack of confidence imposes on you, and guide you as you find the power within to start changing your world. Feeling more confident is one part of living a happier, more fulfilling life.
應用這其中的一些招數就可以幫助你克服缺乏自信這條強加給自己的限定條件，並引導從內在力量上開始改變你的世界。感覺自己更自信是你的生活更快樂更充實的一部分。
What have you found to be helpful when it comes to feeling awesome?
發現這些招數有很大的幫助作用時，難道你還愁自己不會感覺自己很棒嗎?
