過節第一次帶對象回家 這些小心機讓你避免尷尬大綱

If you're bringing a significant other home, you'll need to run it by your family and make sure they're on board.

如果你要把另一半帶回家，你需要先知會家人，徵得他們的同意。

"You need to have a preparatory conversation with your family," said Winter. "Tell them that you're seeing someone special and you'd like to integrate them into the holiday plans."

溫特說：“你需要先和家人談一談，讓他們做好心理準備。告訴他們，你戀愛了，並打算帶戀人回家過節。”

Every family has its quirks and kooky relatives that join in on holiday celebrations. Give your partner an idea of who will be there and the protocol for their behavior, and highlight relatives that you think they'd get along with.

每個家庭的節日慶祝活動都會有幾個古怪的親戚來參加。讓你的伴侶知道哪些親戚會來，他們的言行舉止大概是什麼樣子，並重點介紹幾位你覺得能和伴侶合得來的親戚。

"Give them a 'what's up' as to each person and tell them the conversations to avoid and the conversations they might want to enter," said Winter.

溫特說：“給每個親戚都做一個簡介，告訴伴侶什麼話應該說，什麼話不應該說。”

Even if you and your partner spend the night at each other's places all the time, your family's standards can be a different story, making sleeping arrangements a potentially fraught topic. Winter recommends treading carefully.

即使你和伴侶經常在對方的住所裏過夜，但是在父母家裏過夜則是另一回事，可能會帶來一些煩惱。溫特建議對這件事要小心斟酌。

"This depends on how close you are to your parents and how open-minded they are," she said. "You don't have to stay with the family. You can stay in a hotel. You're adults. If you do stay in the home, you know your parents well enough — know the ground rules and don't push it."

“這取決於你和你父母的關係有多親近，以及他們有多開明。”她說，“你不必非得在家裏過夜。你們可以住酒店。你們是成年人了。如果你真的在家過夜，你應該很瞭解你的父母——知道他們的底線，並且不要逾越。”

The holidays center around food, so make sure your partner doesn't go hungry. If they keep kosher, have allergies, are vegetarian or vegan, or have other dietary restrictions, whoever is cooking needs to know that in advance.

節日聚會都是圍繞着吃展開的，所以要確保你的伴侶不會餓肚子。如果他們吃潔食，對某些食物過敏，是素食者，或有其他飲食禁忌，都要提前告訴做飯的人。

Winter also suggests bringing food with you that you know your partner can have to make it easier on everyone.

溫特還建議你帶一些伴侶能吃的食物回家，這樣大家都比較省事。

You probably have a good idea of what the holidays with your family are like. Set yourself and your partner up for success by choosing the parts of the celebrations that will be the least intimidating and the most enjoyable.

你很可能對自家的節日活動了如指掌。選擇最沒有挑戰性、最有趣的慶祝活動，讓你和伴侶可以成功搞定。

If baking holiday cookies or decorating the tree before Christmas are fun family affairs, include them.

如果烤節日餅乾或裝飾聖誕樹是最有趣的，那麼就參加這些家庭活動。

You want your family to get to know your partner and vice versa. But if your partner's political views differ from your family's, now is not the time to hash it out.

你想讓家人和另一半互相瞭解。但如果伴侶的政治觀點和你的家人相左，這可不是爭個是非黑白的時候。

"You're meeting parents and family for the first time, you want to give a good impression," said Winter. "Now is not the time to air your political views, especially if they'll be in opposition to this family. No good can come of it."

溫特說：“這是第一次見對方的父母家人，你肯定想留下好印象。現在不是發表政治觀點的時候，尤其在你的政治觀點和這家人相反的情況下。不會有什麼好結果。”

Meeting a partner's family can be overwhelming. Introducing your partner to your family can be stressful. And spending lots of time around relatives during the holidays can be a lot to handle regardless.

見伴侶的家人可能會讓你抓狂。將伴侶介紹給家人也可能讓你壓力重重。此外，節日期間和親戚們一起待那麼長時間應該也不容易應對。

Winter recommends factoring in some time and space to breathe during your visit, even if it's just a walk around the block or a coffee run.

溫特建議，在拜訪家人期間，給自己和伴侶留出一些獨處時間，即使只是在街區散散步或出去買咖啡也是好的。

She said: "Keep in mind that your partner is having a new experience. Have your partner keep in mind that you're having a new experience. Just because it's the holidays, you don't have to spend the entirety of the time with your family."

她說：“要記住，這對你的伴侶來說是第一次。你的伴侶也要明白，這對你來說也是第一次。雖說是過節，你們也不用時時刻刻都和家人待在一起。”