如何遠離負能量的人

We all know how important it is to give our bodies a break from "toxic" food and alcohol, but what about giving ourselves a break from toxic attitudes? "Just like any toxic thing-like food or poison-toxic people are extremely dangerous," Tara Mackey, author of Cured by Nature and founder of The Organic Life, tells mental_floss in an email. "They distract us from our positive or productive habits. They'll be the people who discourage you.from exercise or make fun of you for wanting to be a better person. They'll come up with reasons for you to stay in other bad relationships. Toxic people get you stuck in the past and focused on the negative, and in that mentality, you can't move forward and you can't succeed. It is impossible for them to share in your joy."

我們都知道遠離"有毒"食物和酒精十分重要，但遠離消極態度重不重要呢？"像任何有毒物品一樣--食物或毒藥--負能量的人尤爲危險，"《自然治癒》（Cured by Nature）一書的作者兼有機生活公司的創始人塔拉·麥基在回覆心理牙線雜誌（mental_floss）的郵件中說道。"負能量的人會破壞我們積極、創造性的習慣。他們會阻止你鍛鍊身體、會因爲你想變得更優秀而取笑你。他們會想方設法，勸你繼續保持不健康的戀愛關係。負能量的人會讓你沉迷過去，只想那些消極的事情。在這種心態下，你將無法繼續向前發展、也無法獲得成功。他們不可能分享你的快樂。"

"Toxic people can try to cling on-sometimes for years! They can make you feel guilty and because of that, are not always easy to remove from your life," says Mackey. To help you detox your relationships once and for all, here are her tips for getting rid of harmful personalities.

"負能量的人會纏着你--有時甚至纏你好幾年！他們會讓你感到內疚，正因如此，讓他們遠離自己的生活並非易事，"麥基說道。下列這些建議，能讓你一勞永逸的擺脫這些有害的性格、不健康的關係。

1. IDENTIFY THE TOXICITY.

1. 鑑別負能量等級。

The first step of getting rid of something-or someone-toxic is actually recognising the fact that it's harming you. "Toxic people are manipulative and often selfish," says Mackey. "They're difficult to please and impossible to work with, even when you're trying to help them. They have a hard time owning their feelings or apologising, and they will consistently make you prove yourself to them."

想要擺脫負面的事或負能量的人，首先你要認清他們正在傷害你這一事實。"負能量的人通常控制慾很強、也很自私，"麥基說。"很難取悅他們、與他們共事更不可能，即使你想幫助他們，也十分困難。他們很難承認自己的情感、也不願道歉，他們總會讓你向他們低頭。"

If a relationship is weighing on you constantly or bringing you down significantly more than it's building you up, it's time to let go. "Toxic people are a distraction from your true purpose," says Mackey.

如果一段感情總是讓你焦慮，讓你傷心的次數比讓你開心的次數多得多，那還是放手吧！"負能量的人會讓你忘記真正的目標，"麥基說。

2. BE FIRM.

2.斬釘截鐵。

"Toxins have to be met with a powerful force," says Mackey. "It's likely that they won't just respond to 'Go away,' and will perhaps even dig their claws in deeper if you try to create a separation. Don't let this discourage you." Be very, very clear with the person about your intentions, then keep the necessary distance to make sure your message isn't misconstrued.

"面對負能量的人，必須要堅定，"麥基說道。"如果你說要分手，他們很有可能不只是回答一句'你走，'他們甚至會將魔爪伸得更遠。但不要讓這阻礙你。"一定要把自己的真實意圖說清楚，並且保持必要的距離，以確保他不會誤解。