不幸福的主婦都有這三大抱怨

1) "He Never Helps Around the House"

1）"家裏的事他從不幫忙"

In 2013, men spent almost 10 hours per week on chores, while women spent 18. Although that's an improvement from the '60s when men devoted four hours to women's 30-plus, the discrepancy is still annoying-and exhausting. The best way to ensure your husband pulls his weight is to be specific about what you want-kid cleanup, dinner prep-and let him do it his way. "If you stand over him, telling him how to do everything, he'll back off because it'll seem like it's easier to just let you handle it," says Charles J. Orlando, a relationship expert. And remember, chores don't need to be divided down the middle to be equal. If he excels at dinner prep but isn't so great at getting the kids ready in the a.m., it may be easier if you take on that project solo with the understanding that he'll have food on the table after work.

2013年，男性每週會做10個小時的家務活兒，而女性每週則做18個小時。雖然這相比六十年代已有所改善，當時男性每週只做4小時的家務活兒，而女性花在家務活兒上的時間則超過30小時，但這種不平等真的很令人惱火--而且還會讓人筋疲力盡。確保丈夫出一份力的最好方法就是具體說清楚你想要他做什麼--讓孩子們乾乾淨淨、準備晚餐--並讓他以自己的方式做好這些事。"如果你站在他旁邊，告訴他每件事都該怎麼做，他會甩手不幹的，因爲讓你來做這些事好像會更容易，"情感專家查爾斯·J·奧蘭多說道。切記：對分家務活兒不一定意味着平等。如果他擅長準備晚飯，但在早晨收拾孩子去上學方面有所欠缺，那麼由你擔起這份"重任"並想着下班後就能吃上熱騰騰的食物豈不是更好。

2) "He Doesn't Know Anything About the Kids"

2）"他對孩子一無所知"

While studies have found that men interact with their children for at least three hours a day, lots of wives gripe that their guys simply don't know the day-to day details of what's going on in their kids' lives. That's their way-men communicate to exchange information, while women use it to bond, says Orlando. Because of that, favorite movies, toys, or friends' names can sometimes be subconsciously dismissed as irrelevant information. After all, hearing an adorable explanation from his 2-year-old as to why Dora is her favorite won't be something he'll forget anytime soon.

雖然研究已發現男性每天與孩子的互動時間在三小時以上，但很多主婦還是抱怨她們的老公對自己孩子的日常生活細節一無所知。這就是他們的方式--男性交流是爲了交換信息，而女性則是通過交流增強感情，奧蘭多說道。正因如此，孩子們最愛的電影、玩具和朋友的名字可能會被潛意識地過濾爲不相關信息。畢竟，聽兩歲的女兒萌萌地解釋Dora是她最愛的電影人物並不是他很快就會忘掉的事情。

3) "He's Always Playing Video Games"

3）"他總是玩電子遊戲"

Whether it's video games, fantasy football, or just social media, tech can absolutely get in the middle of a marriage. In fact, studies have found that video games in particular can cause problems-but only if they affect everyday routines. Have a conversation about screen time and establish some guidelines-maybe it's no phones until after the kids are in bed, or promising to put all tech away a half hour before your own bedtime routine. That way, you both have time to give into your guilty tech pleasures in a way that doesn't harm your marriage.

不管是電子遊戲、夢幻足球還是社交媒體，科技真的會影響婚姻。事實上，研究已發現電子遊戲尤其會造成問題--但只有在影響日常生活的情況下才會造成問題。好好聊一聊應該在電視、手機上花多少時間，並制定一些原則--這些原則可以是隻有當孩子們上牀睡覺後纔可以玩手機、也可以是保證在你們睡覺的半小時前將一切電子產品放在一邊。這樣既能享受科技帶給你們的內疚快樂感，又不會對婚姻造成影響。