完不成目標和計劃的5種人:你是哪一種?大綱
Given up already on your New Year’s Goals? Or maybe you didn’t bother this year? What is it that makes goal-setting work for some and not others?
已經放棄你的新年目標了嗎？還是說今年你已經不再設定目標了？爲什麼設定目標對有些人有用而對有些人則沒有呢？There are many reasons why people fail to achieve their goals, but look below and you might be amazed to find there is a solution to your personal goal-setting failure.
人們沒有達成目標有許多原因，不過往下讀，你會驚奇地發現，個人目標設定失敗是有解決辦法的。Type A: Non-Committal Attitude
A類：態度不堅定
In my experience, the number one reason for failure is that you haven’t really committed to the change in the first place. The age old New Year’s Resolution: “This year I’m going to get fit” will be heard far and wide, but if you really commit to the goal you need to ask yourself how you are going to do it.
根據我的經驗，目標失敗的首要原因是，從一開始你就並沒有真的下決心去改變。“今年我要減肥” 這條新年決心年年處處都能聽到，但是如果你真的決定實現這個目標，你需要問問自己該如何去做。Solution: Clarity is needed to encourage commitment. If you really want to get fit, think it through—decide on the type of exercise you plan to do, and decide what days of the week and at what time you will do it. Having this all decided in advance makes it more difficult to make excuses. Tell people who support you what you intend to do, and even consider finding yourself an accountability buddy who will check up on you and encourage you to keep going.
解決辦法：清晰地制定目標，來激勵自己完成任務。如果你真的想減肥，仔細想想：確定一種你打算去做的鍛鍊項目，然後確定一週中的哪幾天、幾點鐘去鍛鍊。提前確定這些會讓你更難爲自己找藉口。告訴那些支持你的人你的計劃，甚至可以考慮找一個值得信賴的朋友督促並鼓勵你繼續執行下去。Type B: Aversion to Planning
B類：不願做計劃Many people don’t like to be seen as planners. They see planners as being stifled and boring, and assume that routines and schedules are not for them. I know this because for many years I fought against routine: I was too young and too cool to plan anything; spontaneity was my best friend. What I found many years later was that by planning, I could achieve more—by planning, I could get things done and leave time to be more creative and spontaneous.
許多人不喜歡做計劃。在他們看來，有計劃的人無趣，而且讓人透不過氣來。他們認爲慣例和時間表和自己無關。我很清楚這一點，因爲多年來我也在和慣例作鬥爭：我這麼年輕這麼酷，不用計劃任何東西；自發性是我最好的朋友。然而許多年之後我才發現，通過制定計劃，我可以實現更多——通過制定計劃，我可以把事情做完，而且留出時間，讓自己更有創意做更多想做的事。Solution: Set a goal and plan out how you are going to achieve it. Start small: if you want to write a book, plan and schedule the first chapter. When you achieve this first milestone, you will see how easy it was to do so and then plan the next chapter. Plan regular small steps in your calendar and you will be amazed at how much more you will achieve in life.
解決辦法：設定一個目標，並計劃該如何實現它。從小事開始：如果你想寫一本書，先爲第一章做好計劃和時間安排。當你完成第一階段時，你會發現是如此簡單，然後繼續爲下一章做計劃。在你的日程表上爲小的步驟做好規律的計劃，你會驚訝地發現在你的生活中可以實現更多目標。Type C: Non-Believer
C類：不相信自己Most of you will be familiar with the Henry Ford quote “If you think you can or think you can’t you are probably right.” This holds true with goals: if you set a goal and deep down don’t believe you can actually achieve it, don’t waste your time.
大部分人應該都熟悉亨利-福特的這句名言：“如果你認爲你行，你就真的行；如果你認爲你不行，你就真的不行。” 在設定目標上也是如此：如果你設定了一個目標，而打心底裏你不相信你可以實現它，那就別浪費時間了。Solution: Only set goals you believe you can achieve. What can you do if you don’t believe in your own power to achieve any of your goals? Positive affirmations can help you to achieve your goals, so try to make all your thoughts positive and supportive. Monitor your thoughts, when they are negative try and replace them with a positive one.
解決辦法：只制定你相信自己可以實現的目標。如果你不相信能憑自己的努力實現目標，那你還能做什麼呢？積極的肯定可以幫助你實現目標，所以儘量讓你的想法積極樂觀。關注你的想法，當出現負面想法時，試着用積極的想法來取代它們。Type D: Easily Led
D類：容易受他人影響Then there are those who look to others for affirmation, but instead they get discouragement. “Don’t go for a run—come for a beer instead, it’s way more fun.” Well, it’s more fun for your friend, who won’t feel guilty that they are not exercising when you are. So many people unwittingly try to sabotage your success, and they often do so because if you improve, they’ll be forced to focus on their own stagnation. They will try to drag you back to their level at every opportunity.
還有一些人喜歡從別人那裏尋求肯定，但卻總是被打擊。“別去跑步了，來喝杯啤酒吧，這更有趣。” 好吧，對於你的朋友來說這更有趣，他們並不會因爲你在鍛鍊時他們沒有而感到內疚。所以許多人不經意中試圖阻撓你的成功，他們這樣做是因爲如果你進步了，他們就不得不面對自己的止步不前。所以他們要利用每一次機會試圖將你拉到和他們一樣的水平。Solution: Hang out with people who support you. If that’s not possible, if you have a sibling or spouse who discourages your goals and dreams, start to recognize when it happens and remain committed to your goal. When you start to recognize that other people are preventing you from living your life, you will stop allowing it to happen.
解決辦法：和支持你的人在一起。如果做不到這一點，如果你有一個朋友或伴侶總是打擊你的目標和夢想，你要意識到這一點，並繼續保持對目標的決心。當你開始意識到其他人在阻止你活出自己的人生時，你將不會允許它發生。Type E: All or Nothing
E類：急於求成或一事無成I’ve met many of the “all or nothing” type in my time—they want it all, and they want it now. If it won’t happen tomorrow there is no point in doing it !
我遇到過很多這種類型的人——他們想要實現一切，而且想要立即實現。如果明天沒有夢想成真，就沒有意義去做了！Solution: Reality check—nothing happens immediately. Learn to set smaller goals that give you more instant gratification along with your larger goals, so you can have the best of both worlds.
解決辦法：現實一些——沒有什麼會馬上發生。在制定較大目標的同時，學會制定一些能讓你很快獲得滿足感的較小目標，這樣就可以兩全其美了。Awareness is the key factor when it comes to making changes. By understanding yourself and your excuses you will be better able to make decisions which will serve you and get you a step closer to achieving your goals this year.
你想尋求改變時，意識是關鍵因素。通過了解你和你的藉口，你會更好地做出適合自己，並讓你離今年的目標更進一步的決定。
