助你走好人生路的成功貼士(下)
6 Stop caring about what everyone else has.
比上不足比下有餘
When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop! Realize that you are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the awesome abilities you have and to be grateful for all the good things in your life.
當你發現自己開始跟同事，鄰居，朋友或者一些名人比較的時候，趕快停下來！你要認識到自己的與衆不同，你也擁有那些人沒有的長處。花點時間思考你有哪些特長，並且對生活中所有的美好報以一顆感恩的心。
The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life — a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you might have a new destination in mind.
我們之中大多數人的問題在於，總會覺得混到一定的地位（覬覦許久的，他人所在的地位），我們纔會過得開心，比如老闆那樣擁有一間轉角辦公室，又比如像朋友的朋友那樣擁有一套海景別墅。不幸的是，你需要一段時間的努力才能達到他們的境界，而在你達到後，你可能又會野心勃勃地嚮往新的目標。
Appreciate where you are and what you have right now. Try comparing yourself to those who have less, those who are dealing with tragedy, and those who are struggling to survive.
珍惜你現在的位置和你已經擁有的一切吧。比上不足比下有餘，和那些正承受着悲劇的人，那些爲了生存苦苦掙扎的人比一比吧。
7 Stop caring about the imaginary state of perfect.
不做完美主義者
Many of us are perfectionists in our own right. We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward. We dedicate copious amounts of time and attention to our work to maintain our high personal standards. Our passion for excellence drives us to run the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting. And this dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us to achieve results… So long as we don’t get carried away.
很多人都有實力做完美主義者。我們爲自己設立很高的標準，並全力以赴地去達成。我們在工作上花費很多時間和精力，以維持自己的高標準。追求卓越的熱情，驅使我們格外地努力，從不休息也不減速。毫無疑問，爲了達到完美而做出的奉獻，幫助我們取得成就…只要我們不失去理智。
But what happens when we do get carried away with perfectionism?We become disgruntled and discouraged when we fail to meet the (impossibly high) standards we set for ourselves, making us reluctant to take on new challenges or even finish tasks we’ve already started. Our insistence on dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’ breeds inefficiency, causing major delays, stress overload and subpar results.
但是如果我們真的爲了完美主義，走火入魔了，會發生什麼呢？一旦沒有達到自己設立的標準（高得離奇），我們就會不滿和氣餒，從而不願意接受新的挑戰，甚至半途而廢已經着手在做的任務。堅持對細節一絲不苟的專注（dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’<俚>），造成了低效率、大延期、超負荷以及爛結果。
Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done. So make a decision. Take action. Learn from the outcome. And repeat this method over and over and over again.
要記住，真實的世界是不會給予完美主義者獎賞的。處理完事務的人才能得到回報。所以，在做出決定後馬上行動，從結果中汲取經驗和方法，然後重複運用這個方法。
8 Stop caring about being right all the time.
不把自己的價值觀強加於他人
There are few absolute ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ in the world. What’s right for you may be wrong for me, and vise versa. People need to live their lives their way – the way that’s right for them.
世上鮮有絕對的“是”與“非”。對你來說是對的，對我來說可能是錯的，反之亦然。人們需要用自己的方式生活——適合他們的方式。
When it comes to life choices and opinions, not much is worth fighting about. Step back from arguments with your spouse, family members or neighbors. When you feel anger surging up and you want to yell that vulgar remark on tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away. Let mind calm down. You don’t have to be right or win an argument.
當談論到生活中的選擇和觀念，不值得因分歧而爭吵。放下與配偶、家人和鄰居的爭辯吧。當你感覺怒火中燒，很想罵髒話的時候，什麼也別說，馬上離開，讓心情平靜下來。
Open your mind to new ideas and opinions. Don’t just concentrate on what others are doing, spend time figuring out why they are doing what they’re doing.
敞開心扉接受新的想法和觀點。別專注於別人在做什麼，花點時間搞清楚爲什麼他們要這樣做。
9 Stop caring about mistakes.
不懼怕犯錯
Mistakes teach you important lessons. Don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. You’ll never be 100% sure a thing will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it!And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. If you never act, you will be left standing in the same spot forever.
錯誤教人成長。別猶豫——別懷疑你自己。在生活中，你永遠不能100%地確信，你會做成一件事，但你可以100%地確信，如果不做就肯定沒有結果。大多數時候，你不得去爭取。無論結果如何，事情總會以它應有的方式結束：要麼成功，要麼得到教訓。如果從不行動，你將永遠在原地踏步。
10 Stop caring about things you can’t control.
轉變態度，挖掘潛能
Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and smartest thing you can do to compensate for the things you can’t control is adjusting your attitude. Your attitude has a profound effect on your overall potential. Consuming yourself with the negative aspects of a circumstance gets nothing productive accomplished. But if you instead look at the circumstance positively, coming from the standpoint of “What’s my next best move?” you put yourself back in the driver’s seat.
把時間、才能和感情浪費在你控制不了的事情上，會導致挫折、痛苦和停滯的狀態。想要彌補你無能爲力的事，最明智的舉動是改變態度。你的態度可以幫你發揮全身上下所有潛能。把注意力集中在處境的負面，對於取得成功而言沒有益處。但如果你積極看待處境，站在這樣的立場想問題：“下一步我該如何更好地做選擇？”，那麼你就重新掌握主動權了。
Bottom line: As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” You can’t change what happened, but you can change how you react to it. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right. The opposite is also true. The choice is yours to make.
總之：就像瑪莉亞羅賓遜說過的那樣，“沒有人能回到過去重新開始，但是任何人都可以從今天起步，並迎來一個新的結局。”你無法改變既定的事實，但是你可以轉換你對這件事的反應。每天早晨當你醒來時，如果你腦中的想法是“唔，今天會發生一些好事”，並且做個生活的有心人，你通常會發現你是對的。反之亦然。決定權在你自己手中。
