父母和孩子間的溝通障礙 The Communication Barrier Between Parents and Children

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In China, there is an old saying: every family has their issue, the parents and their children’s problems exist all the time. It seems that parents and their children can never get along peacefully, their communication barrier comes to be obvious since the children come to their adolescence, this situation happens in many reasons.
在中國，有一句方言“家家都有本難唸的經”, 父母和孩子間的問題總是一直存在。似乎父母和孩子永遠都不能好好地相處，他們的溝通障礙打從孩子來到青春期就更加的明顯，這樣的情形發生是有很多原因的。

On the one hand, the children have come to the adolescence, they desire to be independent and get away from their parents’ protection. The age of adolescence means the children have grown up, they are no more the small kids, they want to make their own decision, so they become rebellious and go against what they parents tell them to do. They do this for the purpose of proving that they are grown-ups.
一方面，孩子已經來到了青春期，他們渴望獨立，脫離父母的保護。青春期意味着孩子已經長大，他們不再是小孩子，他們想要自己做決定，所以他們變得叛逆，和父母叫他們去做的對着幹。他們做這些是想要證明他們已經是大人了。

On the other hand, most parents take their children as the small kids all the time. In most parents’ eyes, their kids will be always kids, no matter how old they are, the parents still treat their children as the small ones, so they will make every decision for their kids. The parents refuse to accept the fact that their children have grown up and can make their decision, so the communication barrier happens.
另一方面，大部分的父母一直把他們的孩子當做小孩子來看待。在大部分父母的眼裏，他們的孩子永遠長不大，無論他們多大，父母仍然當他們的孩子是小時候的孩子，所以他們會爲他們的孩子做所有的決定。父母拒絕接受孩子已經長大的事實，自行做決定，所以溝通的障礙纔會發生。

The communication barrier between children and parents is very family’s problem, the parents should learn to let go gradually and the children can have a nice talk to their parents, thus the problem can better solved.
父母和孩子間溝通的障礙是每個家庭的問題，父母應該學着去慢慢放手，孩子應該和他們的父母好好談談，這樣問題才能更好地解決。