如何與情緒化的夥伴相處?

1. Determine if this is moodiness or something that needs more attention

1.首先要確定這到底是一種情緒化，還是需要更加註意的事情

It is important to determine whether your partner is just having moods or if they actually need professional help. Mood changes can be caused by a variety of things. Determine if they are caused from situations or if they could be a health issue.

確定你的夥伴只是情緒化，還是他們實際上需要專業的幫助，這一點很重要。多種因素都可以導致情緒變化。確定這些變化是由於所處的境況引起的，還是一種健康問題。

Notice how long the moodiness lasts and how severe it is. If it affects their daily living, it is probably something that needs checked out. You might consider keeping a journal with notes just in case they need to see a doctor.

要注意這種情緒化持續的時長以及嚴重程度。如果情緒化影響了他們的日常生活，那很可能就需要接受檢查了。你或許會考慮寫記錄日誌，以防他們需要看醫生。

2. Do a self-check of your emotions

2.對你自己的情緒自查一下

While you are checking your partner's emotions, check yours as well. Could any of your moods or behaviors be contributing to your partner's moodiness? Do you find yourself feeding the moodiness by reacting to them in a certain way? Is there something you can do to change, so you can be more helpful rather than harmful?

當你在檢查你夥伴的情緒的時候，也要注意你自己的情緒。有沒有可能是你的某種情緒或者行爲造成你的夥伴的情緒化呢？你發現你自己對他們的某種特定反應方式，造成了這種情緒化嗎？有沒有你可以儘量去改變的地方，這樣你就會對你的夥伴更有幫助，而不是傷害他們?

3. Choose your battles

3. 面對挑戰

Sometimes moodiness is an attention-seeking behavior. When this is the case, you need to decide whether or not it is worth addressing. Be considerate of what your partner feels is important, but decide for yourself what can be put aside for the time being and the sake of the relationship.

有時候，情緒化是一種吸引注意力的行爲。如果是這種情況的話，你需要決定這種情緒化，值不值得你處理。理解你的夥伴的想法，是很重要的，但是要爲自己決定什麼是需要暫時擱置的，什麼是需要爲了良好的關係去做的事情。

4. Set boundaries

4.設定界限

All healthy relationships have boundaries. Boundaries tell us how far we can go without causing more harm. Your partner needs to know what those boundaries are. If they are yelling or screaming at you, let them know you will be happy to talk to them when they have calmed down. Tell them you do not talk to people who speak to you in that manner. They need to know that behavior is unacceptable, and you will not engage with them.

所有健康的關係都有界限。界限告訴我們，我們可以在不造成更多傷害的情況下，走多遠。你的夥伴需要知道那些界限是什麼。如果他們對你大吼大叫，讓他們知道你很樂意在他們冷靜下來的時候，和他們談話。告訴他們你不想和那些大吼大叫的人說話。他們需要知道那種行爲是不可取的，而且你不願意和他們做朋友。