追求男神

We live in a world that is run by the powerful fuel called ambition. Whether it is focused on getting the guy or whether it is focused on getting the job, ambition remains a powerful substance. If you.have it, you feel it pulsing in every nerve of your body.

我們生活在一個由野心力量主導的世界。無論是集中精力得到男神還是集中能力去獲得工作，野心一直是一種力量巨大的存在。如果你有野心，你會感覺你身體的每個神經都熱血澎湃。

Chasing the dream guy

追求男神

First of all, why is he running? Is he running because you are not paying enough attention to him or is he running because he is intimidated by your ability to dream independently from him? If he really loves you, he will not make you choose.

首先，爲什麼他要跑開呢？他跑開是因爲你沒有對他足夠關注，還是因爲他害怕你從他身邊獨立的能力？如果他真的愛你，他不會讓你選擇。

Instead of running away from you, he will run to you and fight for you. He will tell you when he is unhappy or unsatisfied and then the both of you can figure out a system of working things out together.

他會跑向你，爲你奮鬥，而不是逃離你。當他不開心或者不滿的時候，他會告訴你，然後你們可以一起想出一種解決問題的辦法。

Chasing a guy because he feels neglected or because your dream career makes him feel insecure will only end in heartache – for you both, and frankly it is humiliating and exhausting. A man of character and dignity, a man that is truly worth your beautiful heart, will not run away – remember that.

他感覺被忽視或者因爲你的夢想職業讓他感覺不安，追求這樣的男人，最後的結局只有心痛——對你們兩個人來說，坦誠說，這很丟臉而且讓人筋疲力盡。一個有人格有尊嚴的男人，一個真正值得擁有你芳心的人，不會逃跑的——記住這一點。

If you do decide to run after him, you will find the dynamics have drastically changed. He might smooth things over for the next few months, trying to persuade you into thinking you made the right decision.

如果你決定追求他，你會發現動力就徹底改變了。他或許會在之後的幾個月裏面一直恭維你，試圖說服你讓你認爲你做出了正確的決定。

Nevertheless, you will eventually find that your independence and free will has slowly been sucked out of you and you will find yourself in a position of submission. You might be present physically, but your heart and soul will always be somewhere else.

然而，你最終會發現你的獨立和自由逐漸被慢慢掏空，你發現自己處在了順從的位置。你或許身體在某一處，但是你的心和靈魂卻一直在其他的地方。

If this happens, he clearly was not the one and you have to remind yourself that there is always a way out; there is always a way to start over.

如果出現這種狀況，顯然他不是你需要的那個人，你需要提醒自己一定有出路，一定有重新開始的辦法。