對於難以信任他人的人你需要了解的事

1. He's had a string of terrible relationships that will inform how he acts with you. Duh, but there's more. It's very likely he's been burned before and it was traumatic enough that he's wary of being hurt again. If that history has been established, keep it in mind moving forward. If he's acting irrationally, it certainly isn't your fault, but keep in mind that (within reason) it isn't entirely his fault either. Understanding his side of the situation will be very helpful moving forward.

1. 他有過很多次糟糕的情感經歷，這會影響他如何對待你。但還有更多。很有可能他之前情感受過傷，傷勢十分嚴重讓他十分謹慎不想再受傷害。如果有這種過往，那要記得繼續向前。如果他行爲很不理智，這肯定不是你的問題，但你也要理智的記住這也不是他的過錯。理解他的難處對於你們的關係向前發展十分有幫助。

2. Those past relationships aren't necessarily romantic. Someone with trust issues might not have a big, flashing horrible relationship to point at. While a partner with a habit of cheating or emotional abuse is certainly a possibility, keep in mind that an absent parent or even a problematic friend could be the root cause. It could even be a combination. Maybe (and very unfortunately) he's the kind of person that lets people walk all over him, so he's had a revolving door of troubling relationships.

2. 這些過去的感情不一定都是浪漫的。那些難以信任別人的人可能經歷過一段非常痛苦的感情。其伴侶習慣了出軌或情感虐待就是一種可能性，記住父母不在身邊或者甚至是有一個麻煩不斷的朋友都有可能是根源。甚至可能是兩者相結合。不幸的是，他有可能是那種隨意讓人欺負的男生，所以會不斷遭遇糟糕的感情。

3. He might have trouble committing. In the early stages of the relationship, before you're even really aware of his trust issues, he might find it tough to be in a relationship because he likes you a lot and is afraid to invest in a relationship he assumes is just going to hurt him. It might take some time and slow progress, but he'll likely come around.

3. 可能他很難對他人做出承諾。在情感的初期階段，甚至在你意識到他難以信任別人之前，他可能會發現和你在一起十分困難，因爲他很喜歡你，但他又害怕投入這段可能會傷害他的感情。也許需要一段時間或者進展緩慢，但很有可能他會恢復對他人的信任。

Just be aware that, on the flip-side, not every guy that doesn't want to commit to a relationship with you has trust issues. Some of them just aren't ready to settle down. Trust your instincts, and don't wait around for just anyone.

但另一方面，你也要知道，並不是所有不願做出承諾的男生都有信任他人的問題。有些人就是還沒有準備好安頓下來。相信自己的直覺，不要等待所有人。

4. He's going to be emotionally guarded. Even typical relationship milestones like saying "I love you" might come hard to him, because again, the less he invests, the less he can get hurt. Keep that in mind when you're pressing him to open up to you, and also that moments when he does share with you are huge milestones for him. If communication is a serious issue for you though, it's certainly worth speaking about with him and exploring other options.

4. 他情緒謹慎。即使是“我愛你”之類的典型情感里程碑對他來說都很困難，因爲，他投入的越少，傷害就越小。記住當你對他施壓讓他對你敞開心扉時，他與你分享的這些時刻對他來說也是重要一步。但如果你覺得溝通困難，那麼和他交談尋找其它的解決方法當然也是很值得的。