7個貼士梳理生活 搞清讓你心煩的事情
“I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up。” My friend’s father used to say that all the time. He was in his mid-40s。
“我還不知道自己長大了想幹什麼。”我朋友的老爸以前總這麼說。他已經人到中年了。
A lot of people live their lives having no clue what they want. They usually follow the American Dream without a second thought, just because that’s what’s expected of them。
很多人渾渾噩噩過日子，不清楚自己想要什麼。他們通常想都不想就追隨所謂的“美國夢”，因爲這就是他們被寄予的期望。
If you ask me, that’s a pretty lousy way to live your life. At the risk of sounding cheesy, I’d like to point out that you have only one life; make the most out of it and do things that make you happy. And you should start right now!
在我看來，這種生活方式很不好。雖然聽上去俗套，但我還是想說：人只有這一輩子，何不盡情享受並努力過得開開心心呢？而且，你現在就可以開始！
If you don’t know what you really want in life, you’re not alone. Thousands, if not millions, of people wander the earth every day without a quest. If you don’t want to spend your life wandering aimlessly, you can use the following 7 tips to find out exactly what you want in life。
其實，不只是你不清楚自己真正想要什麼，成千上萬個人每天都在茫然度日。如果你不想毫無目標地混日子，那就試試下面7個貼士，弄清自己在生活中想要什麼吧。
1. Be selfish
自私一點
You can’t pinpoint exactly what you want in life if you’re constantly sacrificing your time and dreams for other people. You have to put yourself first. Ask yourself: If you weren’t tied down by your job, family, friends, or anything else, then what would you be doing right now? Always remember that it’s okay to put yourself first, because if you don’t, then no one else will。
如果你總爲他人犧牲時間和夢想，那你很難準確發掘自己的真正渴望。你得先把自己放在第一位。捫心自問：如果不受工作、家庭、朋友或其他羈絆，那你現在可能在幹什麼？請記住：你可以優先考慮自己，因爲除你之外，再也沒有人會這麼對你了。
2. Regret nothing
永不後悔
Don’t feel bad for being selfish. It’s your life. It’s time for you to live it exactly the way you want to. If you constantly regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, then you won’t be able to move forward. Don’t live in the past. Live in the present…and the future!
不要因爲自私一點而感到不安。這是你的人生，你應該按自己的意願去生活。要是總爲過去的事後悔，那你會很難繼續前行。不要沉溺於往事。活在當下，看向未來！
3. Figure out what you need
明白你需要什麼
Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you need. Sit down and think about what you need the most. Is it your family? The freedom to express yourself? Love? Financial security? Something else? If it helps, you can make a list of priorities. Also think about the kind of legacy you want to leave behind。
有時要明白自己需要什麼並不容易。請坐下來仔細想想你最需要什麼：家庭、自由表達自己、關愛、經濟安全，抑或其他？可行的話，你可以列一張次序清單。另外，也考慮一下自己希望留下什麼遺產。
4. Determine what really bothers you
搞清什麼最讓你心煩
You can soar only by pushing back against something you don’t want. Figure out what upsets you, and be specific about it. Don’t just say that you hate your office job. Pinpoint exactly why you hate it. Could it be your micromanaging boss? Your workload? Your meaningless job title? Or all of the above? What bothers you, and how can you fix it? How much do you want to fix it?
只有拋開討厭的東西，你才能振翅飛翔。想想什麼使你心煩，一定要具體。不要簡單說你討厭上班，而應具體弄清究竟討厭上班哪一點：是因爲吹毛求疵的老闆嗎？工作量太大？職稱不起眼？或全都有？什麼使你心煩並該如何應對？你又願意付出多少去解決？
5. Determine what makes you truly happy
發現什麼讓你真正快樂
There’s no waste to life if you’re happy living it. Your happiness is the root of your desires. So take a few moments and really think about what makes you happy. Is it traveling? Being around children? Owning a successful business? Your significant other? Financial freedom? Once you pinpoint the one thing that makes you happy the most, you’ll have a pretty clear idea of what you should strive for in your life。
開心度過的生活纔算完滿。快樂是願望之源。所以，花點時間想清楚什麼使你開心——旅行？和小孩玩樂？事業有成？伴侶？還是經濟獨立？一旦找到最讓你開心的那件事，你便能明確知道自己該努力過怎樣的生活。
6. Let people around you know what you’re trying to achieve
讓身邊的人知道你的目標
Don’t keep your goals and desires to yourself. Voice it all out! If you tell people what you’re trying to accomplish, they will most likely support you and give you new ideas. Sometimes mother does know best!
不要將目標和願望藏在心裏。講出來吧！如果你把目標告訴別人，他們很可能會支持你並給你出主意。有時別人確實知道什麼才最好！
7. Stay positive。
保持積極
Life doesn’t always go how you want it. Don’t feel dismay as your plans stray. Take control. Instead of freaking out, try your best to roll with the changes. You will get there someday. You’re just taking a little detour. Sometimes a positive attitude is all you need to keep going。
生活並不總是如你所願。就算計劃泡湯也不要沮喪。要穩住。不要驚慌失措，而應努力順應變化。總有一天你會實現目標的。只是目前遇到一點挫折罷了。有時積極心態纔是你最需要堅持的。
