關於愛情的最佳建議

Friends are great for hashing out relationship woes and frustrations. For the more personal things, you might want to turn to a book - but who has the time to read through every relationship self-help book out there?
好朋友總會在你感情上受到挫折的時候幫你出謀劃策。對於更私人的問題，你可能更傾向於從書中找答案--但又有誰有時間翻閱每一本關於愛情的書籍呢？

Thankfully, Blinkist - an app where you can download and read books in 15 minutes or less - has come up with a list of the most popular pieces of advice from the top relationship books in the US and UK.
值得慶幸的是，Blinkist--一個可以在15分鐘內下載並閱讀書籍的應用程序--列出了一張最受歡迎的建議清單，這些建議源自美國和英國最受歡迎的愛情書籍。

'He Comes Next'
《下一個就是他》

"You can start by making sure you truly hug and embrace each other at least three times a day. Make it your daily ritual to hug in the morning before heading off to work, when you're both home after work and before going to sleep. And these shouldn't be quick and polite hugs. You should embrace until you feel the warm sensation that comes with making an emotional connection."
"你可以先從每天至少擁抱三次開始。早上上班前抱一下，下班回家後抱一下，睡前抱一下，使其成爲日常生活的一部分。擁抱的時候不要敷衍了事。好好擁抱一番吧，直到彼此躁動、情緒翻涌。"

'Dirty Minds'
《思想齷齪》

"In 2008, scientists at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden looked at the genes of hundreds of individuals in committed relationships. The results showed that individuals with a variation of AVPR1A, the gene that controls vasopressin, were more likely to be unhappy in their relationships."
"2008年，瑞典卡羅林斯卡研究所的科學家研究了數百位戀愛人士的基因。研究結果表明，若受試者控制抗利尿激素的AVPR1A基因發生變化，那他們對戀情的滿意度就可能更低。"

'Come as You Are'
《做自己》

"A good way to release this tension is through exercise, but sleep also works well, as do giving and receiving affection, relaxing, crying and even screaming."
"釋放緊張的最好方式是鍛鍊，但睡覺也能起到作用，愛慕別人、接受別人對自己的喜歡、放鬆、哭泣、甚至尖叫都有助於減壓。"

'The All-or-Nothing Marriage'
《孤注一擲的婚姻》

"It's important to always nurture your own individual identity by tending to personal goals and friendships."
"樹立自己的身份非常重要，可通過追求個人目標，與好朋友保持聯繫來實現。"

'How Emotions Are Made'
《情感是如何形成的》

"This 'autopilot' system is called interoception. It's the way the brain keeps your body - with its hormones, immune system, and nervous system - running smoothly. It's managing an ongoing and predictive system so that you don't have to be conscious of what's going on at all times."
"這種'自駕'系統被稱作內感受。是大腦保持身體正常運作的方式--通過調節激素、免疫系統和神經系統。它正在管理一個持續的可預測系統，所以你無需對所有的事情都瞭如指掌。"

'Emotional Agility'
《情感敏捷》

"One psychological exercise you might like to try is writing a letter to your future self. Can you imagine who you'll be then, and what you would like to say to that person now? Writing will help you articulate what matters most to you."
"也許你可以嘗試這樣的心理練習：給未來的自己寫封信。你能想象那時候的自己是什麼樣子嗎？你又想對現任對象說些什麼？寫信有助於表達出你心中最重要的事情。"