與你的領導溝通時,一定要切忌以下5句話!

In a time when there are so many ways to be in touch -- there's phone, email, text messaging, Gchat and talking IRL, to name a few -- speaking effectively with your boss can be complicated work. And as difficult as it is to perfect, good communication is one of the key elements to your productivity, your happiness and the chance that you get the raise you want and need.

現在是這樣一個時代：我們可以通過很多種方式進行交流--舉幾個來說，比如電話、電子郵件、手機短信、Gchat以及IRL交談--但有效的和你的老闆交談是一件非常複雜的工作。就像想達到完美一樣困難，良好的溝通對你的生產力、幸福感和你想要得到的晉升機會來說，是關鍵要素之一。

Here are things you should generally avoid saying to your boss:

下面是一些通常情況下你應該避免對你的老闆說的話：

1."It's not my fault."

1.這不是我的錯

Even if it's not, you don't need to say so. This isn't conducive to solving a problem and "you want to be solution focused and positively focused," Woodward said. Instead of defending yourself or putting blame elsewhere, offer some options for fixing the problem.

伍德沃德表示，即便不是你的錯，你也不需要這樣說。這不利於解決問題，而且“你想成爲關注解決方案和積極方面的人，”爲解決問題提供一些方案，而不是撇清自己或者轉移責備。

2."I need a raise."

2.我要加薪

No. Nope. When asking for a raise, you'd be wise to put things in the context of your boss and the company, Pollack said. Talking about why you deserve a raise or promotion should not be about the "I," she said, but instead how you have added value to the company or saved it costs. "It doesn't mean you're not advocating for yourself, it just means that when communicating your needs to your boss, it can't be about you."

別，別。波拉克說，當你要求加薪時，你要足夠明智的站在你的老闆和公司的角度。她表示，談論你爲什麼應該加薪或升職時，不應該說“我”，而是談論你是如何使得公司增值或節約成本的。“這並不意味着讓你不爲自己辯護，只是說當你和老闆談論你的需求時，不能以你爲中心。”

3."My gut says..."

3.我的直覺告訴我...

Intuition is cool and all, but it's not guaranteed to be right. "Never go to your boss with a feeling that you can't back up with data," Woodward said. Your boss may very well care about your beliefs or your first instincts, but to ensure your senses are properly working, do some research before spilling your guts.

直覺確實很酷，但並不保證正確。伍德沃德說：“永遠不要用一個沒有數據支持的感覺來面對你的老闆”。你的老闆很可能會關心你的信仰或第一直覺，但是要保證你的感覺很可能會起作用，在表達你的直覺之前先做些研究。

4."We've already tried that."

4.我們已經試過了

This remark may sound like laziness and resistance to your boss, an unwillingness to think. "Circumstances are always changing," Woodward said. You may have tried a particular technique with the wrong resources or the wrong people. Instead of saying something has been done, you can say you've tried something similar, and ask how to adjust it to get a different result. That's what you should be asking yourself. Then provide your boss with those answers.

這句話聽起來像是懶惰或者反抗老闆的表現，很不情願去思考。伍德沃德指出：“情況總是變化的”。你可能通過錯誤的資源或錯誤的人嘗試過一個獨特技藝。與其說你已經做了什麼，不如說你曾試過類似的，同時詢問如何調節纔可以得到一個不同的結果。這是你需要問自己的。然後告訴老闆這些問題的答案。

5."That's not my job."

5.那不是我的工作

Your job is to support your boss. Telling them something isn't under your job description isn't just annoying, but it's counterproductive. "The connotations are very negative," Pollak said. This doesn't mean you should personally take on every task your managers ask of you. Find ways to delegate and offer solutions and resources. Think about what will get the task done quickly and effectively, rather than putting up a roadblock that makes your boss' life harder.

你的工作就是支持你的老闆。跟他們談一些不在你的職責範圍內的問題不止惹人厭，也是事與願違的。波拉克表示：“其隱含意義是非常消極的”。這並不意味着你應該身體力行的承擔你的經理要求的每項任務。找到方法委派下去同時提供解決辦法。思考什麼可以使任務快速高效的完成，而不是爲你的老闆設置路障，讓他的生活更加艱難。