十個簡單方法挖掘你的特質
1 Start with the small things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in you. ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.
從小事着手。認真做好每一件小事，收集點滴的自信，繼而相信自己的能力，更好地駕馭自己。
2 Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best, do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.
不要試圖討好每一個人。關心他人的想法是好的，但是自己的需要更重要。不要試圖去做別人，只要發揮自己的獨特閃光點你才能做最好的自己。
3 Avoid negative people. People who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you are not good for you. If you're timid, loud and aggressive people are probably not good for you, and vice versa. Whatever you do, do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.
減少和消極的人接觸。他們的觀點有可能會影響到你，如果你膽小，那麼嗓門大的，咄咄逼人的人有可能不適合你。反過來也是一樣。不要拿自己和別人比，你就是最好的你。
your fears and learn from your failures. We only fail when we do not make the best out of adversity. When something doesn't go the way we would like it to, there is something to be learned from that, which can be applied next time you are in a similar situation. Get up and try again.
正視失敗並總結教訓。我們失敗是因爲我們沒有積極抵抗逆境，如果一件事和我們想的不一樣，那麼我們可以去好好總結，避免再出現這樣的事。
5 Stop the negative thoughts. Try positive thinking on for size. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about you, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. So, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage. Look in a mirror and see the good things such as if you have big brown eyes say "Wow I have big cute brown eyes!" or "My freckles are so cute!"
拋開負面想法。積極的思考。相信你自己是最好的最棒的最獨特的，結果你就是最獨特的。
6 Improve your self confidence. You can do this by simply doing things that you make you feel good, like accomplishing something. Accomplishment is the key ingredient to gaining self confidence. Just do it, don't worry about making mistakes. We all make mistakes.
增強自信心。你可以通過做一些讓自己有成就感的事，比如完成一件事。做好一件事是增強自信心的主要方法。
7 Do something to impress yourself. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or vet's office. Be a Big Brother or Sister. Help someone else. Nothing makes you feel better about yourself than seeing how your help can make someone else's load a little lighter. Take a class, study hard, and pass - learn something useful or interesting. It could be photography, oil painting, a literature appreciation class, or beginning guitar. Do a daring feat: bungee jump off a bridge, skydive, go hang gliding (all with a guide, of course). Accomplishment raises self-esteem by raising self confidence.
做一些有意義的事情。幫助流浪者或者獸醫的志願者。做一個大哥哥或大姐姐，試着去幫助他人。
8 Don't worry about being "perfect." Aiming for perfection in life is a lost cause because it is different things to different people. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else, so by trying to be perfect you may just be setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. Instead, seek to achieve goals. For example, take a class in the visual arts. The visual arts allow you to explore yourself and find "perfection" in "imperfections". This self exploration, artistic knowledge, and the accomplishment of finishing the class can do wonders for your self-esteem.
不要迷信“完美”。因爲完美的定義是因人而異的，沒有一個人在所有人的眼中都是完美的，更甚者，一味地追求所謂的完美只會讓你感覺挫敗和失落。
9 Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do that will make use of your strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasize your good traits, it will keep you busy so you will end up spending less time thinking about your weaknesses.
試着欣賞自己。每個人都有自己的長處和短處，自己的習慣和原則，這些就是你區別於他人的地方。所以，多一些時間去挖掘與欣賞你自己的特質，而不要去尋找別人的短處。
10 Reward yourself when you succeed. Bask in the glow of your successes. You deserve to have your dreams, and you can make them come true. Believe in yourself completely, and others will also believe and trust in you. When you accomplish something always treat yourself to something wonderful.
成功的時候，打賞自己。你應該有自己的夢想，將它們實現。相信自己，別人就會相信你，當你成功的時候，記得好好犒勞自己。
