美語情景對話 第947期:Men Cry 男人哭泣
Vella: So Daniel, we're talking about emotions and let's talk about emotions in men. Do you think it's OK for men to cry?
維拉：丹尼爾，我們來談談情感，我們談一下男人的情感吧。你能接受男人哭泣嗎？Daniel: Well, I do think it's all right. There's nothing wrong about it. If you want to cry, if you're sad, if you are angry, if you are disappointed, I think it's normal. The normal reaction would be to cry but unfortunately there is a huge stigma attached to men crying. For some people it is a big issue. For me, personally, it isn't.
丹尼爾：我覺得這沒什麼。這沒什麼錯。如果你想哭，如果你很傷心，很生氣，或者你很失望，我覺得這很正常。哭泣是正常的反應，可是不幸的是，男人哭泣被認爲是極大的恥辱。對有些人來說這是個大問題。就我個人來說，我覺得這沒什麼大不了的。Vella: I agree a hundred per cent with you. For me personally, I think it's totally OK for guys to cry.
維拉：我完全同意你的觀點。我也認爲男人哭泣沒什麼。
Daniel: Hm, hm.
丹尼爾：嗯，嗯。Vella: But I think it's in my culture, Indonesian, it's really uncommon to, you know, for guys to show this emotional expression when they cry. For example when, even when you're little, if you cry in the classroom and when you are a guy and if you cry, people are just going to make fun of you and they're going to start laughing and calling you names.
維拉：我來自印度尼西亞，在我們國家的文化裏，男人哭泣這種情況非常罕見，男性一般不會表露出這種情感。即使是小時候，如果男孩在教室裏哭，那會被其他人取笑的，他們會嘲笑地喊出他的名字。Daniel: I know totally. It's the same in Chile actually. Well, I was raised in a really, really strong kind of macho culture. I mean crying was a sign of weakness so boys were not, I mean I can say, were not allowed to cry, right, because of, because of the whole macho thing and you have to be a man, you have to be brave so you're not supposed to cry. But now I think it's, kids shouldn't be, well they shouldn't be encouraged to cry but they should be told that it's all right. I mean it's a natural reaction and you have to show your feelings so I think if you want to cry, if you're sad and if you want to cry, you should just do it but there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
丹尼爾：我完全瞭解。智利也是這樣。我是在強烈男性文化的環境中成長起來的。哭泣被看作是軟弱的表現，這種文化不允許男孩流淚，因爲你要成爲男人，你必須要勇敢，所以你不能哭。不過我現在認爲，不能鼓勵孩子哭泣，但是應該告訴他們，哭也沒關係。因爲這是一種自然的情感，你可以表露出你的感覺，所以我認爲如果你想哭，如果你很難過很想哭，那你可以哭，沒什麼難爲情的。Vella: I think that's just how it is inside or they expect men to be macho and masculine and I think showing tears kind of takes away a lot of masculine, like masculinity out of men.
維拉：我想他們是希望男性要有男子氣概，更陽剛一些，可能流淚會讓男性看上去不太陽剛。Daniel: I think it's more masculine just to assume that you are sad and you are showing it. You're not afraid to show your emotions. I think that's more valuable, that's more, I mean I'm a boy and because I cry that doesn't make me less of a man. I mean, I'm a man and therefore, I don't know because I'm a man, I can show my expressions and I'm not afraid of it. I don't know, that's what I think.
丹尼爾：我覺得這樣更有男子氣概，你很難過，而你表現出來了。這表明你不害怕表露你的情感。我認爲這更重要，我是男性，不會因爲我哭了就讓我缺少男子氣概。因爲我是男人，我可以表達我的感情，我不害怕表達出來。我是這樣認爲的。
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重點講解：
1. make fun of 取笑；戲弄；拿…開玩笑；
例句：Don't make fun of others. It is impolite.
別取笑別人，那是不禮貌的。
2. be supposed to do sth. 應當，應該，須；
例句：These batteries are supposed to last for a year.
這些電池應該能用一年。
3. take away 拿走；奪走；
例句：Your visit will take away the sting of her sorrow.
您的來訪會消除她的悲傷難過。
4. be afraid of 害怕的；恐懼的；
例句：He was afraid of putting his fear into words.
可是他怕把這種顧慮說出來。
