美語情景對話 第390期:How to Get a Date 如何約會

Mike: OK, so for those of us listening who are not familiar with dating in the US, practices are different, Mark, how would you go about getting a date with somebody in the US?

邁克：爲了那些不熟悉美國約會情況的聽衆，約會方法會不同，馬克，在美國你會怎麼和他人約會呢？

Mark: Ah, well, I, that's a difficult question because you know I don't always succeed with that, but I guess usually you like a girl. You begin talking to her and find some things in common with her and, I don't know, if you feel like she likes you and you like her then you ask her out.

馬克：嗯，那是個非常難的話題，因爲你知道，我並不是每次都會成功，通常你喜歡一個女孩，你會開始和她聊天，尋找你和她的共同點，其實我也不太清楚，如果你感覺到她喜歡你，而你也喜歡她的話，那你就可以約她出去。

Mike: OK, what would you say? "Do you feel like going out this evening?" or "What are your plans?" or "Are you busy?"

邁克：好，那你會怎麼說呢？“你今晚想和我去約會嗎？”還是“你有安排嗎？”還是“你忙嗎？”

Mark: Well,those, all of those ways are so typical. Their so usual, so I don't use those, I don't say those things because I feel like it's just too common, so I think women, or girls, usually respond better if you're very direct, so I say something more like, um "So which is better for you, Friday night or Saturday night?"

馬克：嗯，那些方法都太普通，太平常了，所以我不會用，我不會那麼說，因爲我覺得那太普通了，我想如果你非常直接的問，女孩的迴應一般會很好，所以我會說“你哪天有空，週五晚上還是週六晚上？”

Mike: OK, and they resond with a slaped face, or no? Then, what do they say to you?

邁克：好，那她們會打你一巴掌還是別的？那她們會怎麼回答你？

Mark: You'd be surprised. Usually, it's, um, some good responses. I mean if the person doesn't like you then maybe they give you an excuse, "Oh, I'm busy Friday and I'm busy Saturday." Well, that's OK. Then you know, that that person doesn't like you (right) but, um, but usually that direct question, it, the girl or the woman is often surprised that you're so direct so she laughs and she tells you an answer, "I'm free Friday." So you get a good response many times with direct questioning like that.

馬克：你會很驚訝的。一般來說，有些迴應是好的。我是說，如果那個人不喜歡你，那她們可能會找個藉口，比如“哦，我週五晚上和週六晚上都很忙。”那還好。但是你知道那個人不喜歡你（對），但是通常這種直接的問題會讓女孩感到驚訝，因爲你太直接了，所以她會笑，然後會告訴你她的回答，“我週五有空。”所以多數時間直接的問題你都會得到這樣的良好的回答。

Mike: OK, and what would you do then on your, on a date? Would you say, "Great, let's go bowling!" or?

邁克：好，那之後你們約會的時候會做什麼呢？你會不會說，“太好了，我們去打保齡球吧！”還是其他的？

Mark: I would set a time and again, I think it's not so important, what you do, as it is important to, to just make a decision and to do it, so some girls might not like bowling but if you pick her up on a date and you say, "Hey, we're going bowling tonight." If she really doesn't like bowling, she will tell you but usually if she doesn't mind bowling then she's happy that you made the choice. That's better than asking her, "So, what do you want to do tonight?"

馬克：我會定個時間，我認爲你們做什麼並不重要，重要的是要做出決定然後去實施，一些女孩可能不喜歡打保齡球，但是如果接她去約會，然後你說：“嘿，我們今晚要去打保齡球。”如果她真的不喜歡打保齡球，她會告訴你，但是如果她不介意打保齡球，那她會很高興你做出了決定。這要比問她“那我們今晚要做什麼”好很多。

Mike: I guess especially if you're the one spending the money for it then.

邁克：我想尤其是你還是那個要付錢的人。

Mark: That's a good point. Yes. Absolutely.

馬克：說得對。對，絕對是的。

Mike: It'll work out well for both. Well, thanks a lot, Mark. That's great.

邁克：對雙方來說都會很順利的。馬克，非常謝謝你。那太棒了。

Mark: You're welcome.

馬克：不客氣。

重點講解：
1. be familiar with
熟悉；熟知；
eg. People who know bharara well are undoubtedly familiar with his wisecracking ways.
瞭解巴拉拉的人都很熟悉他妙語連珠的一面。
eg. 70 years, the Sam to keep at least a year to visit each store twice, and he was familiar with the store managers and many employees.
70年代時，山姆保持一年至少對每家分店訪問兩次，他熟悉這些分店的經理和許多員工。
2. in common
共有的；相同的；
eg. I had little in common with that friend.
我跟這個朋友之間其實並沒有什麼共同點。
eg. No matter what type of the reason it was, there was one thing in common: carelessness.
不管是哪種類型的原因，它們都有一個共同點：粗心。
3. go out
與（異性）交往；與…談戀愛（或有性關係）；
eg. They've only been going out for six weeks.
他們相戀才6周時間。
eg. Will you go out with me tonight?
今晚你願意和我約會嗎?
4. pick up
（通常指開車）接載，取走；
eg. He has to pick up the kids.
他必須去接孩子們了。
eg. We drove to the airport the next morning to pick up Susan.
我們第二天早晨開車去機場接蘇姍。
5. work out
（如期）發生；進展（順利）；
eg. I just have that confidence that things are going to work out fine.
我就是有信心，相信事情總是能解決得很好。
eg. I hope the new project will work out well.
我希望新計劃能順利完成。